Becca Tobin referred to Matthew Koma’s comments as “gross.”

Glee star blasts Hilary Duff’s husband for weighing in on ‘toxic’ mom group

Becca Tobin referred to Matthew Koma's comments as "gross."

By Raechal Shewfelt

Raechal Shewfelt

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January 14, 2026 12:58 a.m. ET

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Becca Tobin in 2023 in Beverly Hills. Credit:

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*Glee* actress Becca Tobin is not holding back her feelings about the mom group scandal that's erupted after Ashley Tisdale French penned an essay, in which she didn't name names, about walking away from a "toxic" one.

While the internet immediately guessed her piece for *The Cut *was about Hilary Duff, Mandy Moore, Meghan Trainor, and other moms that the *High School Musical* alum had been photographed with previously, Duff's husband, Matthew Koma, commented on the subject via social media.

Tobin said, "I don't think there's any loser," Tuesday on the *LadyGang* podcast she cohosts with Keltie Knight and Jac Vanek. "There's no loser in this group to me. Not one. Except for Hillary Duff's husband."

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She wasn't finished.

"I think it is so gross when husbands jump in and get petty," Tobin noted. "Especially since Ashley did not name names. If Ashley had come out and said Hillary was said person being a mean girl, I would understand the husband coming to her defense. But I really am rubbed the wrong way when a man inserts himself like this and it's solely for him to get attention."**

Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma pictured in 2025.

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Vanek suggested that Koma weighing in had, in fact, made it seem more likely that Tisdale French had been talking about his wife. She said the situation was giving her *The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives* vibes and was "giving like reality show, dumbass husband drama."**

"He attacked a woman," Tobin said. "He called her self-obsessed or whatever. He said something about her being self-absorbed. And I think that's so tacky. I would be so upset with my husband, whether or not I got along with this person, we had a falling out, whatever the thing is. It's like she goes low, and then he goes lower. And I think it's actually really gross when a man comments on something like this. And it's offensive. It's offensive for what he said about her. I don't like it at all."

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Koma had made his comments on social media: "Read my new interview with [*The Cut*]. A mom group tell-all through a father's eyes. When you're the most self obsessed tone deaf person on earth, other moms tend to shift focus to their actual toddlers," he wrote over an image of Tisdale French seated, with his face over hers.

** has reached out to Koma through reps for Duff, whom he married in 2019 and shares three daughters.

Listen to the full *LadyGang* conversation above.

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